Should of and could of are not the same around what needs and wants to be done. Should of is usually laced with self-criticism. “I should have done this and I am such a stinker for not doing it”. Could of is “Maybe if I spent more time doing the research, my topic would make more sense…next time I will do that”.

There are many things you should do and remarkably, we do them. There are even more things we can kind of do because once we understand we “could of” done them; thought of them; planned for them; the sting is less. We are less critical and we all need a much less critical self.

Consider taking some deep breath time and figuring out what you “could” be; do; feel; say…next. It is time for you to be kinder to yourself.